{"id":1518,"date":"2014-03-19T00:15:37","date_gmt":"2014-03-19T08:15:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cultofmoney.com\/?p=1518"},"modified":"2014-03-18T18:48:50","modified_gmt":"2014-03-19T02:48:50","slug":"attention-parents-6-ways-youre-enabling-your-adult-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cultofmoney.com\/attention-parents-6-ways-youre-enabling-your-adult-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Attention Parents: 6 Ways You’re Enabling Your Adult Children"},"content":{"rendered":"
<\/a>Everywhere I turn I see an adult child still dependent on her parents. And the parent just can\u2019t figure out why his child refuses to grow up.<\/p>\n The parent shakes his head and wonders what it\u2019s going to take for his child to gain some independence.<\/p>\n From the outside it\u2019s easy for everyone to see just how these children are being enabled. Yet, the parents doing the enabling are oblivious.<\/p>\n If you feel like your child is never going to spread his wings and face the world alone these could be the reasons why.<\/p>\n Here are five ways you\u2019re enabling your adult children.<\/p>\n There are certain times when it\u2019s perfectly fine to provide housing to your adult children. Like when they\u2019re going through school or aggressively saving for a down payment for their own house. (You can still charge rent though.)<\/p>\n But providing free housing (or paying rent) for an adult child who refuses to grow up and get a job is simply enabling.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not doing your kids any favor. Let them try to go out and get a place on their own. They\u2019ll get a taste of the real world and gain a sense of appreciation for all you\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t know why parents do this.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve seen this happen in my family a bit too much. A car breaks down. An adult child is desperate to buy their own house but has horrible credit.<\/a><\/p>\n The parent feels sorry for their child and cosigns on a loan \u2013 even though they\u2019re about 99 percent positive that they\u2019ll be stuck forking over the payments.<\/p>\n Prime example of enabling. Don\u2019t do it.<\/i><\/p>\n How many cars has your child went through?<\/p>\n I can understand buying or helping your child buy their first car, but everything after that should be your adult child\u2019s responsibility.<\/p>\n You do not owe it to your son or daughter to purchase them a new car every time they blow up the previous one you bought them.<\/p>\n Let them feel the pain of purchasing a car themselves. I bet it will last a lot longer too!<\/p>\n If you feel like an ATM machine rather than a parent then you\u2019re probably enabling your kids.<\/p>\n# 1 \u2013 Providing Them Housing<\/h2>\n
# 2- Co-Signing on Loans You KNOW Won\u2019t be Paid<\/h2>\n
# 3 \u2013 Purchasing Cars<\/h2>\n
# 4 \u2013 Handing Out Money<\/h2>\n