{"id":910,"date":"2012-04-23T01:13:27","date_gmt":"2012-04-23T09:13:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cultofmoney.com\/?p=910"},"modified":"2012-04-25T21:17:38","modified_gmt":"2012-04-26T05:17:38","slug":"my-zero-tolerance-rule-for-jerks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cultofmoney.com\/my-zero-tolerance-rule-for-jerks\/","title":{"rendered":"My zero-tolerance rule for jerks"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Zero tolerance rule for jerks, life's too short, why bother?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

My guiding principle is that life is too short, and my time is too valuable, to deal with difficult people.\u00a0 I will only do so if there is no other way, only when I simply must deal with them.\u00a0 And if this person is a long-term problem instead of a short-term one (think a boss or manager versus a store clerk or passer-by), I will usually try and change how I interact with said ass-hat rather than deal with them directly.<\/p>\n

My theory is that you\u2019re the average of the 5 to 10 people you spend the most time with.\u00a0 Many people inherently believe this, as your parents didn\u2019t want you hanging out with \u201cbad apples\u201d because they knew that the more time you spent with them, the more conscience and sub-consciences influence that they would have with you.\u00a0 Given this assumption, that your friends influence you, you\u2019d like to bring in people to your life such that they are a positive influence and help you reach your goals.\u00a0 This is true for your personal life, your career, your earnings, and how you make decisions.\u00a0 Your friends and co-workers help open up career opportunities that wouldn\u2019t otherwise be available.\u00a0 Your professional network is extended and influenced by those strong ties that you spend the most time around.\u00a0 If you are too close to someone who is a known problem, that will rub off on you too.<\/p>\n

I would also extend this to the online world.\u00a0 The people you interact the most with online, you are likely the average of those people.\u00a0 If the internet allows this group to be slightly large, maybe as large as 15, doesn\u2019t change much, just dilutes the effect slightly.\u00a0 Your interactions on blogs, the sites you visit, the gossip you share, and the games you play, are all aspects of your group.\u00a0 If you were to take the average of the 10 most visited websites, what would that say about you?\u00a0 What would that site look like?\u00a0 What about the 10 people you spend the most time interacting and communicating with.\u00a0 Would you be proud to share this combined website?\u00a0 Would you introduce this online conglomeration of personalities to your closest friends?<\/p>\n

This is such an important point, that I\u2019ve added it to the System of Ritual Practices for Money<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you take this into the land of websites and blogs, what are the 5 to 10 highest referring websites?\u00a0 Does this give you a good picture about your readers?\u00a0 Are they a group that interacts with you and with each other, or do they visit, read a page, and leave.\u00a0 How do you go about changing things to attract a better class or readers?<\/p>\n

Given all the important aspects of life and money, you can see why I have a zero-tolerance policy for jerks.\u00a0 They affect all aspects of your life.\u00a0 They are detrimental to your happiness.\u00a0 They make life difficult.\u00a0 All the effects that they produce in you are transferred on to others.\u00a0 They react to this.\u00a0 The best\u00a0 people leave, and the time is filled by less desirable people.<\/p>\n

Join me in having a zero-tolerance rule.\u00a0 Do what you can to make the remainder of your 2012 ass-hat free, and your life will be better off because of it.<\/p>\n

Readers, what are your thoughts on jerks and assholes?\u00a0 Are you one?\u00a0 Do you know someone who is but you can’t get away from them?\u00a0 How do you deal with these people if you do?<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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